Dear Son, When you are ready.
I’m starting a new series on my blog. Mainly because I know you probably wont be interested in reading my writing till you are much older, and I have so much in my head that I want to share with you that I figured this was a healthy outlet. Your mother has just started the week to week appointments and you are almost big enough to join us on the outside. I have been thinking about this a lot recently and I wanted to share with you one piece of advice that I think applies to many things in life, “When you are ready.” I know your mom wants you out NOW, but that is something you will only understand when and if you decide to make this journey with someone in the future. For now, I just want you to come when you are ready.
I think this phrase will apply a lot in your life. The world is big and will be a very scary place at times. Though I will be with you and help you to figure things out along the way, I want for you to experience things when you are ready. I know that life never works that way though. I know we are put into situations and things well before we even think we are ready to tackle it, but as I said I will always be here to help you figure it out.
The relationships between boys and their dads have always been rough. Pride, egos, and all sorts of things get in the way. You’ll discover there are these weird standards that people have put in place for each other. We want to put labels on things, and no matter how hard we try to break from that we only end up making more and newer labels to put on things. That’s a much longer thought for another letter, but suffice to say that sometimes those things will get in the way. I want to break that cycle with you though. I don’t want you to be afraid to ask me for help. Asking for help is not a bad thing, many people will say it is, but it’s not. When you are ready, I’ll let you do it on your own.
The reason I want to write these letters is because I want to share so much with you. I want to be there to show you all the wonders this world has to offer. I want to make life magical for you, but I have to keep reminding myself that will happen on its own. For instance I’m pretty sure that if I show you Star Wars within the first couple of years of you being out here that you wont really appreciate it’s complexity and nuance. So I have to keep reminding myself to wait until you are ready.
Son, when you are ready, you will change the world. I know that seems like a lot of pressure and you may think you aren’t the one to do so. But you are the one. You will change the world even if it is for just one person. You are already doing so for your mother and me. Don’t worry too much about it though. You will know what to do and when to do it, when you are ready.
When you are ready, life will open itself up to you. There is so much to be explored and discovered. My biggest hopes for you ( I promise I will not be upset or super disappointed if it doesn’t happen though) are for you to be smart and creative beyond what I can imagine. I am already proud of you though. There is nothing that will change that. I know that when you are ready, life will be ready for you. I will be behind you and cheering you on every step of the way.
Son, When you are ready, I can’t wait to meet you!