It’s a new year and like many people I’m sure you have new years broken promises to make, I’m sorry I mean resolutions. Let’s be honest with ourselves. Most resolutions get broken within the first month of making them to ourselves. Life gets in the way. We get back into our old routines and we just find it way to difficult to change something we wanted to change for the better. So we quit before February rolls around and return to the comfortable, even if we are miserable with the comfortable. It happens. I’m someone who has done this almost every year of my life. That was until 2017. You all know that my life was shattered in 2016. Everything changed, my comfort zone disappeared and I was forced to take steps into a new Miguel reality that I discovered was much better than the one I lived in before. I was forced to re-make myself in 2017. Honestly, I’m rather proud of how my efforts turned out. I like the Miguel that I made in 2017, he’s a much lighter person. I know he’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but that’s okay. Because after all he is not alone, and he matters.
We all make efforts to better ourselves at the beginning of the year. We want more for ourselves and our loved ones. We end up lying to ourselves believing that we can change something monumental. We end up taking more than we can handle and pretend that it’s something easy. Trust me, like I said I’ve been there. Most of my life my new years resolution was to lose weight. I didn’t succeed until I actually had someone who pushed me to do it and kept me on task for the 2 years it took to get to a healthy weight. And then 2016 happened and I put on a few pounds again. I resolve to write the great American novel, just like everyone else, I get about 2 weeks of writing done before I’m distracted by other things. It wasn’t until 2017 when my therapist encouraged me to set out an easier plan for myself. She said make a goal you can achieve with your writing. I thought, well I certainly can write and publish a blog post every week. So in 2017 I succeeded. I wrote a new blog post every week, I even got to throw in the story of Esperanza which I will be finishing next week. Two blog entries every week was a huge accomplishment, from someone who wrote maybe once a month previously.
I think the best we can do for ourselves is set small achievable goals for ourselves, and actually make the time for it to become a habit. For instance, when I started my new job in 2017 I was worried that my writing would suffer from lack of time to do it. But as you can see, I made the time. I set out for myself a schedule that I wrote out and posted in my home office/ attic that I was going to hold myself to. I kinda let the exercise thing fall away on that schedule, but I did it. I made time for a change that was achievable and important to me. My writing has been something that has helped me make sense of my world in the remaking of Miguel. It has helped me to feel not so alone, and reminded me that my voice matters.
So here is a goal for you that is achievable and can help you be better in 2018; be honest with yourself. What can you feasibly fit into your life that you can do this year? If you want to lose weight, make it a more achievable goal. Set out to buy more fresh vegetables in your shopping trips or at least one new fresh veggie every time you go to the store. Maybe you have more time, set out to walk at least 20 minutes a day. That’s simple. It may be more complex than just taking 20 minutes, but you can do it. It really boils down to the simple things that you can fit into your life to make that change you want to make. Don’t go for the big picture, set out small achievable goals that step toward that larger goal.
I know this may seem like the usual inspirational blahditty-blah, but as someone who knows how difficult and devastating forced changes can be I know how important the little things can be. With that being said, I really do hope the best for everyone to find the right path in life. To find something that works for them to have a better reality. Something that makes them happy, and is sustainable for the future. This was a forced change for me to think about for myself, but I am very grateful that it happened. Like I said I found a new me in 2017 and those things are going to be carried over to the future. My new goals for 2018 take the work that I did in 2017 and build upon it.
So enough about how to do it, let’s get to the reason you are all here; my goals for 2018. I don’t know why it is we are so interested in other people’s goals for a year, maybe it’s Schadenfreude. Maybe we find some perverse pleasure in knowing someone wanted to be better and then just fell flat on their face before the end of the year. I know you read that in a bit of disgust, but be honest with yourself, you know that you do that. Anyway, this is what I’m setting out for myself to do in 2018. I want to finish the Story of Esperanza and publish it. I’m about a week away from finishing the first draft. I will take everything offline on Ash Wednesday and begin working on refining it and will publish it maybe around Easter. The time that I set aside to work on that story, I’m going to devote to my novels. I want to finish the first one by the end of the year. I started it way back in 2011, and I’m hoping that extra time that I had set aside for other projects will work well devoted to that. I want to have written at least half of the second novel by the end of the year. I’ve completed a first page and the story is developing in my brain as we speak. There is a third idea rattling around in there as well which developed from an odd and awesome dream I had last year. I don’t want to reveal too much about my stories as I have a paranoid anxiety about people stealing my ideas and making them worse in my opinion. I’m also setting out to try to fix little things around the house to ensure that we can live here without worry of things breaking down or falling apart for a few years. I also want to get relatively out of debt. It’s tough when you are unemployed for a while with a child, a mortgage, and only one person working. We’ll get there though.
On a more Honest Faith level, I’m going to continue to publish one blog post a week. You may see less as I said Esperanza is going to go offline on Ash Wednesday, but don’t worry I’ll still be writing. We are going to be changing the name of the Podcast soon. We are doing that because we feel that when people see “Faith” in the title they get turned off to the whole idea of the podcast. We aspire to take it to a new level this year. We are hoping we can get the funds to make it sound more professional and to maybe even start making some money from it. It will still be under the Honest Faith umbrella but it will go by a different name that is more marketable. Cathy and I are dedicated to just having fun with it though, and not taking ourselves too seriously.
What about you? What are your goals for 2018? What are some small things that you can honestly do to make yourself better this year? For me I am going to support you in those things. My mission, as I’ve said before, is to let as many people as possible know that you are not alone and you matter. Those small things matter to you, and therefore they matter to those who see you matter. So let me know how I can support you in your own goals in 2018 so that I can help to show that you matter. If you’d like to guest blog on Honest Faith, or want a platform for your own writing in 2018 let me know we can even start a new thing under the Honest Faith umbrella! Because after all your voice matters just as much as mine. You are not alone, You matter!